This domain formerly hosted the website of my dad's church, but because of his unacceptable behavior and foolish pride, I'm letting you know who he really is and what he’s been up to.
Both my dad and mom were married at the age of 19 years old, both were raised in a good home. Four years after being married, my mom gave birth to me. Two years later, my sister, three years after that, my brother. Shortly after, my dad had a vasectomy. Due to my parent’s strong belief in God, however, they felt convicted that it wasn't right in the eyes of God and my dad had a reverse vasectomy. They had 4 more children after that.
My siblings and I have always been brought up under strict but loving counseling and disciplined under the guidance of my parents. My dad was a youth pastor for 10 years and a mission’s minister for 7; I was always involved in church activities, mission trips and under the influence of Christianity my entire life. I hated it, but if it were not for my dad and the way I was brought up, I wouldn’t be who i am today, and im thankful for that. He started his own church back in 2008 named “The Bridge Church” because he was tired of the judgmental and narrow mindedness of the church he was pastoring in.
While growing up, never once did I hear my dad say a curse word or act in a violent manner. There was never a drop of alcohol in the house. My dad was the most disciplined and upright responsible person I have ever known and I strive even today to be like he was then. He was dedicated to his job at the church, his family, and his wife. He took on mission trips and mission conferences all over the world. He has a masters degree at the New Orleans theological seminary, and was learning the Arabic language to become a missionary in the Middle East. He counseled many couples in marriage and other life issues that are too difficult for many people to handle alone. On top of his job at the church, he helped run a small shuttle business to transport men off ships, shuttling them from the dock to the city and back. He did everything he could to provide for our family.
November 2, 2010, my mom found a letter that my dad had written to another woman. My dad went to a conference in Pennsylvania and New York to scope out and interview for some potential mission work. While he was out of state, he met up with this woman he had been talking to for some time. From what he said, he met her on an online golf game a few months earlier. (www.wgt.com). In the letter they discussed a necklace that my dad had bought for her. When my mom presented the letter to my dad apparently there was a huge uprising in the house (not unexpected) and I received a text from my brother while I was in school to come to the house because "mom found papa talking to another woman".
I was shaking the whole way home, shocked and confused. When I arrived I went into my parents room, my poor mother had tears in her eyes and only kept repeating “Sage, no matter what, don’t hate your poppa, just love him”. I asked to speak with him outside and all he said to me was “Son, stay out of this”. I refused until he went outside with me and explained to me what was going on. He told me that he got caught up in something he knew he shouldn’t have, and that he’s been “numb” for a while now. He wouldn’t say much else, was really quiet, and I could tell he wasn’t sincerely sorry, but sorry that he got caught (like he would always tell me when I got in trouble). Mom also found emails between them, planning on meeting up again and getting a hotel room. The woman he was pursuing was also married and had a family, my mom made my dad call her and tell her husband what was going on and not to contact him again.
Ever since then, my brothers and sisters would call me at work crying saying that momma and poppa are fighting. There’s nothing worse than hearing my 10 year old brother sniffling while telling me he thinks his parents are getting a divorce. I would call my mom and she would explain to me that everything is fine, that she just has some trust issues that she was working on, but not to worry. So I called my dad one day and asked him to explain why I was getting calls from my siblings. He said “Your mom is just being difficult, always jumping to conclusions and thinking that I’m talking to other women, when I try to talk to her about it she blows up and screams at me, and you just can’t communicate with her when she’s like that. She’s just being immature”. So for a while I thought that it might be my mom who was overreacting.
My brother sent me a text earlier in the week telling me that he noticed my dad always gets a glass of ice and goes into his room, so he got curious and looked in my dad’s closet and found his stash of alcohol. My dad took me to breakfast for my 21st birthday not a week before that and told me that he used to drink before he was married, but not anymore. My dad lied to me. When I realized this, I started to get suspicious and started looking up his online golf game account. His language used in the game online was unbelievable. He was flirting with women, cussing, and participating in dirty humor; nothing that I would have ever expected coming from my dad. This is when I stopped giving him the benefit of the doubt and began to realize that my mom wasn’t just overreacting to a “small” incident, but that my dad was not who I thought he was.
My mother called me one day crying, she said she was moving to her sister’s house for a while until things cool down at home, she couldn’t take the way my dad was acting and she packed up some clothes for her and the kids and left. Since the rest of his family wouldn’t be showing up that Sunday, he decided he would let his church know about the situation and resigned at the end of april 2011. In June, he got fired from his shuttling job. So he has no job at this point.
He tells my mom that he’s always wanted to live in North Carolina, and that he’s going to drive up there to look for a job. Keep in mind he has no job and gas isn’t the cheap. After about a week of being up there and leaving my 16 year old brother at home by his self, he comes back home and spends money re-carpeting and painting the house.
More to come…
